Have you ever heard someone say about another person (who had withdrawn himself and was spending all of his time alone and separated from his family, friends and church), “Well, he’s just trying to find himself”? May I suggest to you that if someone is trying to “find himself,” and has undertaken that endeavor 
while separating himself from the church, that the “self” he finds will be the “self” that he himself wants to find and not necessarily the one God wants him to find.
Too many individuals think that they can figure life out “on their own.” They think that they have it within themselves to determine “who” they are, “what” they need to do, “where” they need to go and “how” they should go about it. However, such a person has forgotten that (1) “the way of man is not in himself; It is not in man who walks to direct his own steps” (Jer. 10:23), and (2) “the steps of a man are established by the Lord, and He delights in his way” (Psa. 37:23).
Are you trying to find yourself? Turn to the Lord. Get in His church. Let Him help you!