Some parents’ approach to parenting is to wait (even longingly wait) for their children to make a mistake, so that they can pounce on them, tell them what they did wrong and seek to correct it. Some couples’ approach to marriage is to wait (even longingly wait) for their spouse to make a mistake, so that the mistake-free spouse can pounce on the mistake-prone spouse, tell him/her what he/she did wrong and seek to correct it. Some Christians’ approach to “exhorting one another” among members of the church is to wait (even 
longingly wait) for their fellow-Christians to make a mistake, so that they can pounce on them, tell them what they did wrong and seek to correct it. Some elders’ approach to shepherding is to wait (even longingly wait) for the sheep in their care to make a mistake, so that they can pounce on them, tell them what they did wrong and seek to correct it. Does this sound familiar? Is this your approach? Have you seen this?
Let us not forget that “a word spoken in due season, how good it is!” (Prov. 15:23). And, may our speech be “such as is good for building up” (Eph. 4:29). There is a time for “pouncing” and a time for “correcting,” but how much “building up” have we done before that time comes?